Sexual Satisfaction In Long Term Relationship Takes Work!
The sexual growth model posits that sexual satisfaction is attained from hard work and effort, whereas the sexual destiny model posits that sexual satisfaction is attained through finding a compatible sexual partner. A recent study suggests that following the sexual growth model may by better for maintaining sexual satisfaction in a long-term relationship than following the sexual destiny model.
Researchers from the University of Toronto examined data from six studies that included 1,896 people in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships. The researchers compared sexual satisfaction between the two approaches to sex in a long term relationship: the sexual growth model (that a good sex life takes work) and the sexual destiny model (that it should simply work because you are soul mates).
They found that people who believed in sexual destiny thought that problems in the bedroom equaled problems in the relationship. In comparison, people who believed in the sexual growth model believed that sexual problems were workable and did not let it affect their greater relationship.
The researchers also found that the “honeymoon period”, in which sexual satisfaction was high, lasted about two to three years for both groups. In addition, they found that there were characteristics of both the sexual growth model and the sexual destiny model in many of the participants.
In conclusion, they found that people who believed in the sexual growth model had higher relationship and sexual satisfaction than those who believed in the sexual destiny model.
Researchers from the University of Toronto conducted the study. It was published in the February 2017 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.